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How to Fend Off Your Best Friend's Boyfriend

 This is an easy one.

If your best friend's boyfriend makes even the slightest sexual flirtation or advance toward you, simply say this:

"Julie is my best friend in the entire world and we share everything. Everything. Thank you for being so nice to me but I don't do bad boy nice."

He's not going to immediately, completely understand what you just said so you don't need to say anything more. Let that sink in with him. 

If he does it again then say to your best friend:

"Your boyfriend has been really extra nice to me - twice. By the way,  did you see the last episode of  The Fall of the House of Usher? I was terrified!" 

There. You have dropped a hint for her without having to actually accuse her boyfriend of bad behavior. Unfortunately, a direct reveal to your best friend could cause a negative reaction, because some people do not like to hear or even consider that the person they love or may love, could do anything wrong, especially make passes at another woman. Your friend could turn on you after a direct reveal, so toss a hint to her and change the subject. If she responds to your partial reveal with "How do you mean", you can say, "Oh you know, at some of our gatherings when I am off to the side by myself he gravitates over and tries to make me feel... welcomed." 

Bang. Enough said. At this point your best friend has more than enough information to figure things out for herself. Change the subject again because you don't want to get in the middle of a possible, future lover's quarrel, or possibly lose your best friend. 


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