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How to Break up with a Boyfriend

In some cases you should take care, exercise caution when breaking up with a boyfriend.

Most of the time it can be uncomfortable and a little stressful, but there is no apparent danger.


Easy breakup: 


  1. Do you mind if we take a break?

  2. I’m going through some personal issues right now.

  3. Nothing serious but I need some time to work them out.


In rare cases a boyfriend may be irreversibly attached to you. If this is the case, you will very likely know.

Some of the signs include things he may express to you during the relationship. If he repeatedly says things like

“I can’t live without you,” I can not imagine my life without you,” I would die without you,” and he says

this often, this could be a signal for a very stressful breakup if it came to such.


If a boyfriend says any of the above things only very occasionally, them it’s likely just him using

common phrases and he does not literally mean that he would die without you. If it’s true,

unbreakable love on the part of both of you, there may not be a need for concern. But if you are

young and undecided and just feeling your way around the boyfriend/girlfriend world of dating,

there could be cause for some concern.


A true break-up would mean no pressure for the ex-boyfriend. Gentle nudges towards you such as a phone call or text may not be a flag. An ex-boyfriend who shows up unannounced, who expresses that he cannot or does not want to give you up, could be a red flag and you should not escalate the situation by arguing.


At this point it might be a good idea to consult with someone who you feel will not act aggressively on your part.


You probably should not ignore a series of red flags from the ex-boyfriend, especially if it seems clear he is not giving up.


If he says things like "I can't live without you," or "You are my life, there can never be any one else," these could be signs of future escalations. If at any time you actually have thoughts that your life could be in danger, you should seek professional assistance. If it escalates to police involvement and a restraining order, you should seriously review your possible vulnerability and this could mean major changes to your life and lifestyle. In some cases these changes are the better solution than what could erupt from the perpetrator.


Please follow advice from anyone at your own risk.


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